Let’s explore some ways we can better deal with the unknown and lessen our fear of it. However, we can stop fearing change and the unknowns that it might bring. There is no way that we can stop change from entering our lives. Don’t let change or your fear of the unknown of it put you in a holding pattern. A holding pattern creates frustration for those affected by it. A holding pattern prevents the plane (or a person) from accomplishing its mission in a timely manner. A holding pattern is an alternative when something interferes with the normal course of events. If you have ever flown, at some point you may have experienced your plane in a holding pattern where it circles and circles and circles. What isn’t natural or normal, though, is letting our doubts and our fears take charge of us of paralyzing us with inaction of putting us in a holding pattern. Do you sometimes feel that way? But, know what? All of these feelings and thoughts are natural and normal no matter how major or minor the change is. All of this is what makes dealing with change so difficult and scary.įor me, when I open that door to the unknown, the theme music to The Twilight Zone plays in my head.
We lose that comfortable routine, that comfort zone the predictability, sureness, and the routine, all of which makes us feel safe and that is scary and frightening. Change can be likened to opening a door and not having any idea of what is on the other side we take a step into the unknown.
With the unknown, we don’t know what is coming. Certainly change brings about a lot of “not familiars” about which we may feel threatened. No matter how excited we may be about the new opportunity each change may bring about, we likewise have moments of doubt, fear, and unease all caused by the move out of our comfort zone and not knowing what may happen. Things with which we are not familiar may threaten us and fear is an emotion that arises when we feel threatened by something. Why do we fear the unknown? Well the unknown is something with which we are not familiar. Who out there can relate to this person’s letting go of the “security of the known” for the journey into the unknown? I think most of us can relate to this. There have been times in my life when I have tolerated misery far too long because of the fear of the ‘what ifs’ of the unknown.” As one person shared, “I believe that what is most difficult for me is the ‘letting go’ of the security of the known and the flight into the possible abyss of the unknown. Continuing with things workshop participants share are difficult for them when dealing with change, this week let’s explore the “unknown” or the “twilight zone” of change. We’ve looked at (1) losing the sense of control, (2) life outside our comfort zone, and (3) restoring equilibrium or balance in one’s life. Over the past three weeks, we’ve taken a look at some of the things people tell me are frustrating or difficult for them to deal with when a change rocks their world.
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